All quotes from
Marshall's book
When we
simply express our feelings, it may not be clear to the listener what we want
them to do.
Respond
to the needs of others out of compassion, never out of fear, guilt, or shame.
Taking
responsibility for the feelings of others can be very detrimental to intimate
relationships.
The more
directly we can connect our feelings to our own needs, the easier it is for
others to respond to us compassionately.
Judgments
of others are alienated expressions of our own unmet needs.
Connect
your feeling with your need: “I feel…
because I need…”
What
others do may be the stimulus of our feelings, but not the cause.
