Self-nudging
allows you to be the architect and the building.
Your body shapes your mind.
Your mind shapes your behavior. And your behavior shapes your future.
Expanding
your body causes you to think about yourself in a positive light and to trust
in that self-concept. It also clears
your head, making space for creativity, cognitive persistence, and abstract
thinking.
Movement, like posture, tells the brain how it feels and even
manages what it remembers.
You
already have the tools you need to become present.
Power
reveals.
Presence
manifests as resonant synchrony.
In
order for you to feel truly present, the various elements of the
self---emotions, thoughts, physical and facial expressions, behavior – must be
in harmony.
Focus
less on the impression you’re making on others and more on the impression
you’re making on yourself.
Presence
manifests as confidence without arrogance.
Power
makes us approach. Powerlessness makes
us avoid.
When
we feel powerlessness, we cannot be present.
How
the lack of power distorts and disfigures us is important to understand.
Feeling
powerlessness undermines our ability to trust ourselves.
A
heightened sense of danger increases our social anxiety.
Powerlessness induces… goal neglect.… Powerlessness impairs
planning…. Powerlessness makes us self-absorbed.
Power
makes us fearless, independent, and less susceptible to outside pressures and
expectations, allowing us to be more creative.
When
we feel powerful, we’re less self-conscious about expressing our feelings and
beliefs, and that frees us to think and do great things.
Feeling powerful gives us the freedom to decide, to act, to do.
It’s
about being present in the moments that most challenge us.
By
focusing on each new moment in front of you instead of the performance outcome,
you slowly, incrementally nudge yourself toward becoming a bolder, more
authentic, more effective version of yourself.
The
paradox of listening is that by relinquishing power --- the temporary power of
speaking, asserting, knowing – we become more powerful.
Presence
with others is first about showing up.
Literally, physically, showing up.
At
some point, you must stop preparing content and start preparing mind-set.
You
can make your deepest self-accessible just by spending a little time reflecting
on – and perhaps writing about – who you think you are.
It’s
about reminding ourselves what matters most to us and, by extension, who we
are. In effect, it’s a way of grounding
ourselves in the truth of our own stories.
The
authentic self is an experience --- a state, not a trait.
