There are two
reactions to failure. Some people see it
is a valuable experience, an opportunity for learning, a road to growth. And some people see it as a zero on their
scorecard.
The only thing worse
than allowing yourself to be a victim is to resent the survivors.
Sometimes it's more
important to be useful than to be happy.
Do you know what
happens when we victimize ourselves?
When we hand over our power to circumstances? We lose everything that matters. We lose the freedom to change, the grace to
rise above, the strength to get up off the couch.
Thinking about
living is not the same as living.
Where there is
learning, there is always relearning.
Without grace,
minimalism is another metric for perfection.
No one ever told me
how much fear is hidden in love.
I used to think the
opposite of control is chaos. But it's
not. The opposite of control is
surrender.
The answer to a
happy marriage is the same as the answer to a happy life. It is simple, and it is not at all simple:
Give freely.
When you edit your
soul, no one wins.
Authenticity is not
the watering down of your message to help someone accept your words. Authenticity, I think, is simply trying to
find the kindest way to tell the whole truth.
The thing about love
is that time shifts it into new shapes, like water on a rock. The thing about love is that everything else
is sand.
When I think of
love, I think of compatibility and sacrifice, of commitment and service. Of give-and-take. But only part of this is
true. Love is not a game of take. Love is only a game of give.
Choppy waters teach
us to sail better.
We are doing
ourselves no favors when we look to the crowd to tell us where we are.
Busyness is a
byproduct of our culture. It is the
sacrifice we make for our religion of more, for our perfectionist tendencies,
for our temptation to overschedule, overinform, overprovide.
