We don’t
discover wisdom by avoiding pain and confusion.
Negative
states of mind are two-sided: they express our bewilderment, but they are also
a cry, a demand, for deeper insight.
What
keeps us from having more successful relationships is our deeply ingrained
tendency to defend ourselves.
At
the deepest level, we are healthy, whole, clear-sighted, and deeply loving.
Our
defensive strategies are covering old wounds.
Our
ability to be sensitive to others involves our whole being. To fully experience another, we need two
things: energetic resonance and unbiased perception. We must feel and see.
Daring
to go first is being generous.
We
tune into ourselves to resonate with another.
There is a constant inward and outward oscillation of awareness. Joining with another in energetic oscillation
requires a willingness to suspend our protective shield.
We
can learn to use ourselves as a highly sensitive instrument to gauge the
climate of energetic states in the environment. Moments of intuition and
insight arise…. We tune in to what is rather than to our version of reality. We see how our projections, interpretations,
opinions, and judgments get in the way.
Nobody
is doing anything: whatever is happening is happening. We are just sharing the space of the
happening.
We
need to see each individual as a full person, not just a set of problems…. We
tend to label and dismiss the other…. We just cover up the wound instead of
seeing how it fits into a larger picture.
Although we need not go into the history of the problem, we acknowledge
the history that is energetically present in the moment.
In
any relationship, there are four people: ourselves our version of the other
person, the other person, and his or her version of us.
When
our perception is unbiased, there is a sense of space around our
perception. There is room for natural
intelligence to arise, in an ever-shifting pattern.
We accumulate knowledge, but we discover
wisdom.
