In a
loving relationship, each wants the other to be maximized. Each takes joy in
the other’s success.
If you
want to learn to trust your inner voice, you have to learn to pay attention.
If you’re
feeling defensive, figure out why – there’s a chance you might be in denial.
When people are
scared for us, chances are they’re tuning in to a real problem.
Trust is
the bedrock of intimacy; it’s the ability to rely on someone because you
believe that he or she has your best interests at heart.
The irony is that
only when people are accepted and loved for who they are will they be open to
change.
People only change when they themselves realize the futility or
destructiveness of their own behavior.
If you don’t want to be another divorce statistic, if you do want to
be a marriage success story, the first thing you need to internalize is that
love is an activity: it’s a verb.
When those initial feelings of love start to fade, the
only way to regenerate them is through loving actions.
The choice of love is to act lovingly: to give, to nurture, to
support.
When married couples start complaining that they just don’t feel the
love anymore, it’s typically because they’re not making the right choices.
Since love is a verb, the person must act lovingly in order to
experience love.
A
marriage is meant to be a dynamic process.
Every human being
has the constant choice to choose love, to choose dedication, to choose
loyalty.
Love… is
rooted in knowing rather than imagining. Love is not lost in fantasy; it can
take a step back, evaluate itself, and see a bigger practice.
When you
act from love, you’re more likely to make responsible decisions.
Compromise
cannot mean losing oneself or compromising one’s values or emotional health.
Real compromise comes from the choice to give up something you treasure for
someone you love.
