Meaning has two
major components: making sense of life (cognition) and having a sense of
purpose (motivation).
Leadership is not a
position; it is a process.
It's tempting to
appear as a "victim" to duck from responsibility and to avoid
embarrassment, but the price of an excuse is high.
Response-ability is
the foundation of transcendent leadership.
If you want to be
the captain of your business and your life, you must accept full
responsibility, accountability, and ownership for everything that happens in
it.
I define
response-ability as the ability to choose one's response to a situation.
Responsibility is
not about assuming guilt. You are not
responsible for your circumstances; you are response-able in the face of your
circumstances.
Besides
disempowering us from acting appropriately in the face of reality, the victim
story prevents us from learning.
Unless you recognize
your contribution to a bad situation, you won't be able to change that
situation.
Decisions are
worthless unless they turn into commitments, but commitments are worthless
unless they are made, kept, and honored with integrity.
Any time you know
what you should do but can't bring yourself to do it, it is a sign that your
ego is trying to defend itself.
Each of us has his
or her favorite reactive behaviors, which we use to assuage our ego's anxiety
about not being good enough. The key to
defusing such a reaction is to look deeply at whatever primal and childish interpretation
is driving the fear of potential failure, judgment, embarrassment, or
rejection.
