We can change
ourselves and our world by taking personal responsibility for our stories. The goal is to shift our consciousness: to
move away from the mentality of the perpetrator and the victim, the accuser and
the accused, the judge and the one who is being judged.
Only when we change
our reactions to our situations can we begin to let go of the patterns we've
established and embrace healthier ones.
Acceptance without
judgment is vital not only for owning our story, but also for healing
ourselves.
When we're caught in
our patterns, we lose sight of our ability to exercise free choice and thus we
feel victimized.
At an unconscious
level, we repeat patterns, playing out themes in various ways so that we can
experience the emotions attached to those patterns again and again.
Once we've healed
the emotions connected to our traumas, we can begin to exit our patterns
because we've learned that needed to learn.
When viewed without
judgment or guilt, our emotions serve as indicators of our patterns, giving us
the opportunity to recognize that we're back in the same old classroom and have
a choice to change our reaction this time so that we may begin to exit the pattern
and move on.
The story we tell
about who we are and why we experience life the way we do locks us into our
patterns, which we reinforce each time we tell it.
The template of the
wave, found in nature and in our bodies, is reflected in our behavior and in
how we learn.
We must first
recognize how we've cast ourselves in the role of victim, and then we must own
our part in the story and do something to change it.
Acknowledge and
affirm that we are the author of our story.
It's difficult for us to do this because our tendency is to blame and
judge ourselves and others. We also have
trouble owning up to our responsibility because our repetitive behaviors are
quite often unconscious. We don't want
to believe that we're actually choosing to create situations that are causing
us to suffer -- but we are.
The only way you can
heal is by owning your story.
Working with the
child self allows you to heal self-defeating patterns by going to the
source. When you love, nurture, and
recognize this part of you, you begin to heal yourself of past trauma.
Positive change
occurs when we take responsibility for our own lives.
