The essence of
coaching lies in helping others and unlocking their potential.
At least 45 percent
of our waking behavior is habitual.
Resilient systems
build in fail-safes so that when something breaks down, the next step to
recover is obvious.
There are just five
types of triggers: location, time, emotional state, other people, and the
immediately preceding action.
It's hard to change
your behavior, and it takes courage to have a go at doing something
differently, and resilience to keep at it when it doesn't work perfectly the
first time (which it won't).
One of the laws of
change: as soon as you try something new, you'll get resistance.
Call them forward to
learn, improve and grow, rather than to just get something sorted out.
When your brain
feels safe, it can operate at its most sophisticated level. You're more subtle in your thinking, better
able to see and manage ambiguity.
If you're not sure
about a situation, you'll default to reading it as unsafe.
The strategic
question: if you're saying yes to this, what are you saying no to?
People don't really
learn when you tell them something. They
don't even really learn when they do something.
They start learning, start creating new neural pathways, only when they
have a chance to recall and reflect on what just happened.
