All quotes from
Lidia's book
Know land is made
from you.
This is something I
know: damaged women? we don't think we deserve kindness. In fact, when kindness
happens to us, we go a little berserk.
It's threatening. Deeply. Because if I have to admit how profoundly I
need kindness? I have to admit I hid the me who deserves it down a sadness
well.
It is important to
understand how damaged people don't always know how to say yes, or to choose
the big thing, even when it is right in front of them. It's a shame we carry. The shame of wanting something good.
Narrating what you
remember, telling it to someone, does something else. The more a person recalls a memory, the more
they change it. Each time they put it
into language, it shifts. The more you
describe a memory, the more likely it is that you are making a story that fits
your life, resolves your past, creates a fiction you can live with. It's what writers do. Once you open your mouth, you are moving away
from the truth of things.
