All quotes from
Nancy's book
The real
way to creating financial freedom isn't about changing what you do. It's about changing how you feel.
When we
feel that we aren't enough, or that we aren't good enough, we also fear that
we'll never have enough. That fear is a
self-fulfilling prophecy, in which we unconsciously make sure we never, ever
have all that we need. It's a painful
arithmetic going on in the shadows of our unconscious.
Nobody
likes guilty feelings, so we do whatever's necessary to avoid it -- even if it
means turning a blind eye to how much we reject our own wants and needs.
With
healthier self-worth, we take care of ourselves just as well as we take care of
everybody else.
Many of
us believe that sticking with the status quo will win us love and belonging.
Give up
excuses for spending on things that aren't important.
Make a
commitment to no longer shop as a way to avoid your feelings.
The
amount of money we make and how we relate to money is a result of the beliefs
we carry -- both our beliefs about money and our beliefs about our own
self-worth.
The
beliefs that develop during our formative years become like our operating
system. We can't perform functions that
are outside of the system's abilities...not unless we reprogram the system
itself.
Keeping ourselves
down doesn't help other people avoid suffering.
Your body is the
barometer of your truth.
Our excuses, like
our beliefs, can easily sound like facts.
But also like beliefs, they aren't the truth.
Excuses are just
well-packaged resistance.
Whenever we choose
to fight against or deny something that seems threatening, if we look under the
hood, we'll find resistance… and under that will be self-worth issues.
When we tell
ourselves, "I can't", what we're usually saying is "I
won't". Using "can't"
allows us to pretend we have no choice but to give in to our excuses.
Try replacing your
"I can't" with "I'm resistant to". For example, "I'm resistant to trying to
make it on my own". "I'm
resistant to spending money".
"I'm resistant to leaving my job".
Our excuses are the
way we reinforce our beliefs. They're
how we explain why we don't already have everything we say we want. They're a form of self-sabotage because they
give us permission not to try.
Excuses: they're
self-imposed limitations that have nothing to do with reality.
To dissolve the
cycle of excuses, the first step is to remember that there are always options
and choices.
Underlying
commitments cause us to take actions that lead us away from the direction of
our dreams. To get stuck in patterns
that we can't seem to change no matter how hard we try. To create results that are inconsistent with
what we say we desire. But the truth is
that we're always getting what we're actually committed to -- our underlying,
hidden commitments.
We are always
creating exactly the reality we're most committed to having. It doesn't matter what we say we want. If we don't have the thing we desire, it's
because we're more committed to our present state than we are to getting what
we want.
With a strong sense
of worthiness, we're much less likely to let "failures" get us
down. Instead, we see them as learning
experiences that propel us forward to even better opportunities.
Frequently, our
"what ifs" are tied to what others will think about us.
Arrogance actually
comes from a lack of self-worth.
When we seek
validation from outside of ourselves, it's another sign of our desperation to
feel we're worthy.
Reciprocity out of
obligation is a habit directly related to low self-worth.
Taking
responsibility for our finances is the corner stone of financial power.
A high quality life
has more to do with what you subtract than what you add.
Movement mobilizes
possibility, and change beings with making a different choice.
We choose our limits
based on what we believe we're worthy of having.
